Last year I became best friends with one of my roommates and I learned a great deal of important things from her. One thing that she taught me was that nobody "makes" you do anything.
I can remember the countless times I would say "now look what you made me do" and she would quickly respond with " I, didn't make you do anything!" with a big smirk across her face. It was almost an inside joke between the two of us.
Thinking about the idea that people don't control my actions has made me realize that my actions are truly my own. If I choose to yell at someone then it has nothing to do with how annoying the other person is being. What it comes down to is I was the one who because who chose to yell. It was my choice.
Blaming others for our actions is something that comes naturally. "He took too long and he made me late", "She made me burn dinner because she was distracting me", or "He made me yell because he just wasn't listening"; are all things that I have thought or even said.
Realizing that we are at fault requires a certain level of humility. We have to be okay with the idea that we make our own choices and we were not forced to do anything. We have our own free-agency.
Anger or frustration with others is something that we decide or something that we can control. It may require more self-discipline than we have exerted in the past. We choose our actions and we can control our words.
Here is a short clip on anger and how it surrounds our lives.
Anger destroys love and trust. Truly nothing good comes from anger.
Every day we can make an effort to choose peace and joy in our lives and choose to fight against the anger that surrounds us all.
As we take ownership of our own actions we will begin to make to see a happier future ahead of us. One that is full of serenity and peace. One where we can control our tempers and show love to all whom surround us.
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